- Time will zoom by without you realizing.It has been 4 years since you last left your hometown to pursue your own adventure but you have also learnt and met many people along the way. Those experiences are a lifetime worth of stories. So cherish them.
- You will lose touch with your friends. As your Facebook friends and phonebook increase by the day you will also find yourself being disconnected from a lot of people. It's expected as you are still undergoing major changes - personally and professionally. You will feel bad about it. You will reminisce about the heydays. But know that at times, these people are also just a call or a message away. Use them wisely.
- As you age by the day, you are starting to find yourself valuing companionship on a higher level; may it be friends or loved ones. You need someone to fill up those time when you are off from work or lessons at school. You derive satisfaction from organizing or attending social events while frowning at yourself for the lack of "happenings" in your life. It's alright to be busy socially but keep those alone time available too. You will be needing it.
- You will see and experience your parents aging. They will be older each time you are back home. With new facial lines and less robustness than previously remembered, you will be silent for words. It will hit you that the dynamics between you and your parents are changing. You are no longer the receiving end in the relationship. You are starting to realize that you have to give back; may it be in terms of effort, wisdom or even financial support. It scares the living shit out of you to think that they will not always be there for you. There is nothing you can do about that but to call them more often and make it a point to shower them with the same love or kindness shown previously.
- Comparing and contrasting will always be on your mind. You may compare your grades on one instance. The next you will find youself contrasting with the wealth you have as compared to the others. In fact you will come to a realization that everything and anything is up on the pedestal, ready to be benchmarked with another. Wealth, relationship, success, performance, looks and whatever things that you can name. This can be a powerful motivation or a goalset for you to achieve in your own lifetime but do not let it consume you. By all means pursue it as hard as possible but do not beat yourself too much if you fall short of achieveing it. Somethings are just not worth it and you wouldn't realize it back then.
- Freedom is overrated. Being free from parental control as well as doing "adult things" are often overvalued in significance and miscalculated in terms of payoff. Yes you have the money to splurge. You may not even have a curfew hour. But you are also hit with the need to be responsible for your own financing and decisions. Your actions or inactions will bear a greater significance with each growing day. You can no longer claim that you are still learning or that you didn't know about it previously. It is now your responsibility to find out how your are covered medically or the sort of people that you are currently involved with. Be prudent and keep your head at where it should be.
- Appreciate yourself more. Inflate your own ego now and then. You are at this incredible age where you are still growing and maturing to a fine adult. Revel in your own health and looks. Cause you know you can still ride on your metabolism to compensate for all the food and unhealthy lifestyle that you have been living by. So cut yourself some slack.
- You will be haunted by your own doubts and skepticism. You will question the decisions that you are either going to make or have made it in the past. You will never feel 100% certain that you are in the right place and time with the right people. Let bygone be bygone. No amount of thinking can reverse past choices but you can definitely make a consicous decision to get the 100% from what you are doing or living at this moment in time.
- You will experience awe and disapointment with those around you. Some may turn out to be completely different from what you first perceive. It can be for the better or for the worse. But there are also some people who will never change no matter how much hope you against hope that they will. Leave these people alone but do not let them stop you from dealing with others.
- Be wild and spontaneous. No matter how you look at things, you are still young with minimal baggages in life still. Do that one thing that you have always thought of doing. Too expensive, too out-of-reach? Start with the small things then and work your way up of the bucket list. You are too precious to live by the will and expectation of others.
Thursday, August 16, 2012
Things I've Learned in My 20
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